Living with someone who has an addiction is really tough. I should know. I tried it with my best friend (amphetamine addict) for 5 months and I got worn out so quickly that I had to walk out. Addiction combined with PTSD makes it worse. Honestly, it would be best dealing with the addiction first.

I remember you posting a thread about Oxycontin. Is this the med he is abusing? Does the prescribed dose not have the pain relieving effect anymore? Either way, it would be good to discuss it with a doctor.

However, he really might not be playing with you. Dissociation makes us forget things that are very traumatic, like war in your husband's case. BUT when you get back home, you have learned that dissociation is a handy mechanism and you do it without even knowing it in situations where you don't need it anymore.

Not to mention Oxycontin at high doses can weaken your memory.

Ahh, hope I'm not coming off as too much of a wise *****, after all this is mostly speculation. (Though I have read all these things somewhere, I just can't remember the resources)

Best of luck to you and your husband vetswife.