I have an eleven year old son, who is great and helps me a lot with chores and the two younger ones. I don't want to rely on him too much, I already feel that I do, he's just a kid. He's going to make some girl a great husband one day lol. I also worry about what he's exposed to, my husband can be mean to him, I try to keep my son away from him as much as possible. This is a whole other story! I want so bad to just close my eyes and be somewhere else. I feel that I got myself and my children in this big mess and I don't know how to get us out of it except to try to get through to my husband that he needs help.