A quick history; I have three of my own kids (11 yr old son, 4 yr old son, my daughter will be 3 next month). The two younger ones are mine and my husbands; my 11 year old is from a previous marriage.

My husband also has an 11 year old from a previous marriage. We didn’t see him from the time he was 5 to 9 (complications from ex-wife looooong story). He has been coming to our house pretty regularly lately (this summer) and he’s really bad. He gets into my husbands knives and matches. He doesn’t listen to us at all. He doesn’t have any manors. I caught him telling my 4 year old to say “stick” and he was pronouncing it wrong (d in place of st) so my step-son thought it was funny and kept trying to get him to say over and over again.

I talked to my husband about this (who has a lot of issues of his own (mental and physical handicaps)). He doesn’t see it. My step-son is very sly. My son winds up getting yelled at which is ridiculous. I caught my husband yelling at my son in front of my step-son about not ratting on his brother. Now I know that my-stepson got into my husbands knives and if I say anything to my husband he’s not going to believe me and my son will wind up getting in trouble. I don’t want this kid around any of my children. He’s a very bad example and I’m afraid he’s going to hurt one of them.

I just don’t know what to do. I am starting to hate the kid, what kind of person am I to hate a child.

Any advice will be well appreciated!