Hi PurpleButterfly, when you say that you feel unwanted and unworthy this sounds like you might have some low self-worth? I have been there and done that. I have recovered from anxiety and low self-worth was a component of my problem. We get low self-worth when we are growing up. What I did was figure out what messages that I was receiving while I was growing up that would give me this low self-worth. Once I did that I was able to realize that these messages came from people with so many problems themselves and that their messages were not an accurate reflection of me but a reflection of themselves! With this knowledge I was then able to replace my self-worth with a more accurate level of my real value and not one that was assigned to me from someone who didn't have the right or the ability to do so.

When you say that you feel unneeded, well many of us get that way because we think that our only value is what we can do for others because basically this was also how we were raised - meeting the needs of others and not our own needs. I learned how to meet my own needs and cut down on meeting so many needs of others (sometimes it's appropriate and other times it isn't).