Pinksoil,
You are intelligent and educated in Psychology. I'm not sure what you mean by entitling this thread "Sexual Healing."
I know you will not like what I have to say here, but is expressing erotic feelings toward the T and having it reciprocated, in some way going to promote sexual healing? From what do you need healing?
Or are you looking for an emotional, sexual, erotic entanglement with this man, who may be vulnerable himself, or who may be putting himself in a position to manipulate you. Be careful, as others have said here.
My opinion and approach to the idea of therapy may be primitive and even naive by your standards, but it sounds like you are playing with fire here, and that broaching these kinds of issues could be unethical for a therapist.
Patty