I actually had started an online diary where I would write down all the things my b/f does in regards to his kids that bothers me. I thought it might help me to get it out of my system by writing it, but it hasn't seemed to help much. Why can't I just tell myself that I know these things are going to happen, so don't let them bother me? I can't change him or his actions and I realize his kids have always been with him, where I haven't. All I do is make myself miserable over it. I am getting married to him and then they will be my stepchildren so I better get things right real fast. Does anyone know of any good websites that give support for problems regarding stepfamilies? I would appreciate any help I can get. Thanks for the responses too, it helps to talk and hear other peoples situations also.