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chaotic, why do you think the doc answered your questions while looking at the floor?

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I don't know? It seemed like he was reading from some mental script playing in his head. He was clearly not very knowledgeable about ADHD. I think he tried to pretend to be the all knowing physician, then realized that I wanted more than just to complete a 20-item questionnaire and have him say.. 'he could possibly have a problem' let the school system handle it.

I think what up set me the most is that my son was in the room when I talked about this. Even though I was really positive, highlighted how great of a kid he is, how hard he was working, and how smart he is, I think I embarrassed him by mentioning some of the things he struggles with. It was only when the doctor implied that he was a bad kid who needed to be given external rewards, that I realize I had mistakenly entered into this discussion with the wrong profession. Instead of showing my son that I was really proud of all the successes and was just wanting look for some better ways to support him. I accidentally conveyed to my son that there was something wrong with him and when you seek some help, people judge you as being bad.

I guess today I just wish I had just said, "NO" when the pediatrician asked if I had any concerns at this time. I just blew it and need to do a better job of insuring that my son gets the message that: just because you struggle with something doesn't make you bad or defective.