A frequent response I get on my posts and that I often see in many other posts are things like:
Did you ask your T for help?
Did you specifically ask for a return phone call or some type of reply?
Did tell your T her comments or actions caused you suffering.
Did you tell your friend that you are hurt and struggling?
Did you tell your H or your friend or your pastor that you wanted/needed their help/interest/support?
Did you speak up?
I know I don't do a good job of...crawling out from under the bed and seeking comfort and support from others. I also realize that when I do feel like I've made a direct attempt to ask for help/support, often my request goes unfilled.
So today I am asking myself...Why, when I finally reach a point where I would like some additional support from others and actually ask for it-- does it go unheard? Could it be that I am not conveying or asking the right way? Am I really making a clear request? Am I seeking support from the wrong people? Am I thinking that I need support when I really shouldn't be? Are my request just being heard but simply ignored? Or is it in my best interest that my requests are being denied so that I find support from within or maybe from another source?
I know only I can figure this out and there is likely many different reason why requests for support go unanswered.
My questions for the group are:
1. How do YOU let other people know you want or need some support?
2. When you don't seem to get the response that you think you want, how do you decide if the lack of response stems from a communication error on your end or simply that you are being ignored?
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