Kathy, I don't know what I would have done had my sons gone into the military when they were of age. My husband and I used to say that if there was a draft, we'd move to Canada where my husband is from. Thank God that never happened. I remember the desperation I felt then, though. My love for my country as opposed to the love for my sons would have been put to a terrible test.

There have been many times that had I not had my faith, I might have gone bonkers strictly from the worry. I have also found that what I worry the most about... never happens. I've worried needlessly and I have caused myself harm in doing so.

Whoever your Higher Power is, pray that your son is watched over and kept out of harm's way. Then trust your Higher Power to keep your son safe. God hears mother's prayers and I believe he listens and answers them first. When my mom prayed for me, her prayers were always answered quicker than mine were.

You also have a responsibility to your son to be the best mom you can be while he's gone so you'll be together for him when he gets back. It's a tough order, I know, especially with the illness you have to live with every day. The most we can expect of ourselves, though, is the best we can do... even if others don't agree with us that it's our best.

I will keep you and your son in my prayers, Kathy. May you find some peace in your heart until he comes home in one piece.