Wow - good thread. And i have to crawl out of the covers to type right now.
I pretty much don't expect help. I want it, but i can't get myself to ask directly for it from T or others. I will send an email or a phone message saying what is going on.... and then wait to see if anyone responds. When they don't (which is happening more and more often) i assume they are too busy to care about me and I am not worth caring about.... and go back to the pattern of taking care of myself - licking my own wounds. which, only keeps me wounded and irritable.
With the positive change that (i think) is happening in my life, my MD had to really get me to state that I needed help. She read what I had given her, asked what I needed, I didn't know how to answer her... and she said "If you say to me, Dr I cannot get well living in thsi house!" then that I understand. Do you need to move to get well?" I answered with a resounding yes before she finished her sentence. She said "Good. I knew that. But i had to hear you say it."