I was just reading over this thread again and I think I have solved the problem and I did not even know I had already been practicing it for years - Forget wearing a Bra all together.

I do not wear a bra when I am at the house... and I only put one on when I go out into public places or visit family / friends and then the bra comes off as soon as I am back in my house (in front door, straight to bedroom, remove bra, throw on bed) - some times the bra even comes off as soon as I get in the car.

Thank goodness for big for big purses.