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1. How do YOU let other people know you want or need some support
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Well, there are a number of ways I do this.
Sometimes I cry and/or have a temper tantrum--like leave the house, slam the door, etc. (embarrassing but true)
Sometmes I write letters and/or poetry.
Sometimes if I feel really courageous or clear of mind, I ask directly.
Sometimes I suggest a shared activity.
Sometimes I tell dreams and/or fantasies.
Of course the methods will often depend on who I want the attention from. If it was T, and I had a temper tantrum, I don't think he would respond favorably.
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2. When you don't seem to get the response that you think you want, how do you decide if the lack of response stems from a communication error on your end or simply that you are being ignored?
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I ask. If I am an emotional wreck, and assuming the person is T, I often write out what I need first (see todays' post) and then read it in session. I have been known to mail him four page letters but the closer I get to him and the safer I feel in the relationship, the more I try to just talk these things through in-session. It is sooooooo hard, yes indeedy.
Hey Chaotic, it is really okay to take an hour to take care of yourself right now, today. I read your post about your nice weekend and your little boy. It brought me to tears. It was so beautiful. Now, take some of that love and give it to yourself. Take a big fat bubble bath; write a letter to T and know that you are okay and that this too shall pass.
And when you are in-session, ask her why she didn't respond. In my experience T never responds unless I directly say: I need you to respond today. He also doesn't do e-mails with me. Of course I call when I need him.
Another thought==maybe your request to T was something she would rather discuss in person? That feels very much like something a T would do!
Feel better and take gentle care.