"I think it is this confusion that makes my requests for support less direct. I don't know it just seem like at least initially any attempt to seek a connection in times of need would be initially reinforced and then of course later refined into a more appropriate request."

There's truth to that too (depending on the t). All mine have initially reached out and supported my attempts to reach out. MD stopped calling me back after 8 months, and T stopped replying to email after about 6 months unless it looks like a matter of life and death.

I think this is something to bring up with t and get clarity on.
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