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[I think what up set me the most is that my son was in the room when I talked about this....

I guess today I just wish I had just said, "NO" when the pediatrician asked if I had any concerns at this time.

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I agree, I think it would have been better to not have this discussion with your son present. No one likes to be "talked about" when they are present. I'm not sure you should have said "no", though, when asked about concerns, since you did have some. You could have said, yes, there is an issue I'd like to talk about sometime, just between adults. Or something like that. Then the two of you could go off to his office and have the discussion without your son present. Or you could call another day to schedule some time with the doc. When I wanted my daughter to be assessed for depression, I conferred with the doctor in advance. She did some diagnostic questioning when I was present, during my daughter's annual physical exam, then had me leave the room and gave her some more questions, normalizing this for my daughter. Then we went home and she called me the next day so we could have a doctor-to-parent talk on the phone, without daughter present. I'm not sure daughter even knew she was being assessed, since the doctor slipped it artfully into the physical exam.

I hope the referral works out. What type of professional was the referral for? I would agree with some of the opinions here--don't start with a pdoc. Their first instinct is to medicate. To start with, could you choose someone with a broader view? Perhaps your son can learn to manage his challenges by other means than meds. I have heard that schools sometimes apply pressure on parents to medicate their kids, especially when class size is large and teachers are stretched thin. Best of luck.