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Angel_of_the_Past said:
she tells me to call but "I" value her need for personal time.

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T has convinced me that *I* am not responsible for his needs. He assures me that he will take care of himself, and that he does take care of himself.

If you're like me, you're so used to taking care of the needs of everyone else - even (especially) people in authority, that it's hard to imagine there won't be a big, bad consequence if we don't take care of their needs. It doesn't have to be like that with T.