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This is not meant to upset anyone or to cause any problems...And if it does, feel free to delete.

Whatever happened to the days when folks went through hard times and somehow grew stronger from their experiences. Don't think they needed to spend years in therapy, crying on the "talk couch" saying so and so was mean to me...and then get dx'd with l0 or more mental illness labels... A lot of successful folks have come from incredible horrible backgrounds and yet they smile and seem to be happy. Ok, so all folks that smile may not be all that happy, but I am sure they aren't living each day as tho it were yesterday's painful experiences? Are "yesterday's" pain an "excuse" to flounder about in life. Ok, so "excuse" is not the right word. But then what is the right word?

Seems therapy is the new age healer. Sometimes I think therapy keeps a person in their past miseries. What ever happened to "ouch I stubbed my toes", it hurts, I cry, maybe say a few bad words, but continue to march on..

I know "traumas" are much more painful than stubbing one's toes. Then what is the "key" that some folks experience trauma and aren't affected all their lives and others need to spend "it seems" the rest of their lives medicated and in therapy? Wondering what "core" thing is missing or better yet, what do these people have that other's seem to be lacking? Whatever they have, I want it.

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T says that perhaps some people did get "more" something then others no matter how traumatic childhoods were?...even if you life indoors is hell, perhaps there was a kindly neighbour or distant relative that managed to bestow enought "something" when it mattered?? so it doesn't particualarly matter how traumatic our lifes were or who can be "stronger" its if we got enought, if we didn't then we just didnt and all the wanting to not need help for many yrs doesn't make an ounce of different until we get enought of what we need or needed and whose to say how long that will take???