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T's that require this are in fact denying/ ignoring a patient's request for support simply because it was not in the "correct" form

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Chaotic, I don't think it has to do with form but rather encouraging (as the "good enough" mother would) us to begin to define and ask for what it is we need. In the beginning I hated this and now I like it because it makes everything much clearer for me.

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I continue to want support via this medium, even though I never get it. Why???

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A lot of people think that e-mail is too impersonal and not private. T and I don't do e-mails and I don't think I would want it.

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t also requires a middle man.

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Now, THAT would really bug me. I could not leave a message for T with a secretary. In fact, I don't think I could work with a therapist who didn't have a private answering machine. I leave T all sorts of wacky messages on his machine! LOL Now I understand why you want e-mail. It feels more private to you. Maybe you can explain this?

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Why do people keep dreaming of having sex with their T or having their T bring them home and adopt them, even though it is NEVER going to happen?

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Well, we dream of all sorts of things that are never going to happen but that doesn't mean we should give up dreaming. Sometimes our longings are lived out in fantasies and that soothes us psychologically or somehow gives us courage to keep going. I think it's a good thing actually.

Take care.