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Ummm, you guys know that the T's know we are dependent on them even without our saying it, don't you?

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Well... yes if you don't have a warped definition of what dependent means. "relying on someone or something else for aid, support, etc." (dictionary.com)

However in my brain the word dependent gets warped and labeled as bad. Then the fear starts to creep in. For me I start trying to determine how much relying or support? How do I know if I'm becoming too dependent?

The same applies to word attachment. In my head attachment takes on a clingy, obsessed tone when I define it. This is especially when I view it terms of ME being attached to therapy or my therapist. Just now is an example.. I just had trouble typing "or my therapist." When I thought about why, it was because the word "attached" seems in my mind to be connected somehow to sexual attraction and intimacy. Maybe this is similar to Pinksoil's comment in another post about the tendency to sexualize all types of intimacy.

So the answer to your question is YES I know that my T expects me to develop an attachment to her and be dependent on her for support. (Wow, again that was really hard for me to write. I kept wanting to change into the third person...so maybe I don't really KNOW this for sure.)

The bottom line is for me basic assumptions get screwed up, I start looking for previous experiences to use as points of reference and boundaries, then I get scared of doing something wrong, and retreat. I don't know if that makes any sense.