well EM i gotta say, lovey, this isn't a waste of time to talk about .. it is possibly the most important thing to talk about. ANything you read anywhere will tell you that transference must be worked through. You have such an endearing and wonderfully close realtionship with your T.. i think he would handle this very well. Otherwise it can become a very painful experience... and all attached to something you need.

this isn't a waste... it sounds like the perfect venue to get to the issues from the S/A... but dont let that scare you off.. your T isn't going to just blurt out the tough stuff or make you do that either. It sounds like a good medium or vehicle to deal with that horrendous pain.

i still think you absolutely ROCK... and now, im even more jealous bc you and your T sit on the floor and stuff. Dang.

much love