ahh.... therapy-marriage is tough ain't it? i am glad he was able to receive some flack about his bad moments too... it really is a dance with two people and not just one. i hate it when T has a bad day (mental note: add this to rules for therapists ).

what you said about taking negative things in what he says or does and protecting yourself inside... that really struck a chord with me. It really IS hard... but give yourself credit for working on this with an open mind. How can you know how to function perfectly in a trusting relationship if you've never really had one? You are akin to someone learning a second language... why raise the bar so high?

give yourself a big hug Miss.. you work so hard and have done so well