well, you can pick your friends, but you sure can't pick your family seems to be very appropriate here.......i no longer speak to my brother because of his verbal abuse.....so, i understand a teensy bit about where you're at.......you can pick family members from all of the people who post here. may i be the eccentric old aunt who has too many cats and still wears polyester and makes the best and biggest hot rolls you've ever seen?????????////pat\\\\