I agree with pegasus, but this isn't my thoughts directed to you or meaning any offense. I do agree that assumptions and comparisons generally don't help though.

I haven't been through what you've been through though so maybe I shouldn't even post this.

love and care (if you want, I'll ask this post to be deleted but sometimes I do want to express my feelings too As for assumptions in general, probably the less info. the more assumptions? idk I know IRL some have disliked me in the past because I said so little... less so now)

sorry offtopic ramble, back under my rock