Hi Angel, I have dealt with the issue of not meeting my needs and attending to everyone else's instead. What helped me to overcome it was to realize that this was how I was raised and that I could change it. A specific breakthrough occurred one day when I realized that I wouldn't meet my own needs because deep down inside I believed that this would upset my mom/that she wouldn't love me anymore. Like all of our deepest beliefs that keep us captive, this belief was formed when I was very small with few analytical/thinking skills. I am sure that it was based on one of the many disapproving reactions that I got from my mom and that I read so well. I had a very self-centered mother who never could focus on my needs. If you won't let yourself meet your own needs meeting the same needs for others sort of helps I think. I am glad that this is all behind me now. One more thing. When I was working on this issue I had a dream one night of holding a little girl and giving her all sorts of attention and love. When I awoke in the morning I realized that I was taking care of me! This was the final turning point.