Hi Skee, what I would do is "study" the situations from the past to figure out why you were vulnerable. Were you a child at the time? If you were an adult did you feel that you didn't have the right to protect yourself? Did you not have good personal boundaries?

Likewise, I would study the current situations that are causing you panic. What are the odds that these people are really going to hurt you (your daughter's playmate's mom)?

I used to not be able to stand up for myself at all and I was a big follower. I learned the skills that I did not have and now it is a completely different ballgame.

Before I developed healthy personal boundaries I remember feeling extremely vulnerable a lot of the time. It isn't a good feeling and it can leave you shaking inside.