T usually says, "So... what's going on?"

I told him that he needs to change it up, that I cannot deal with hearing him say that for three years now.

So one time I walked into session and there was a sign on my chair that he made. It said, "So... what's going on?"

As far as reconnecting-- that usually depends on what has been going on within our relationship. Sometimes the connection can be maintained for weeks. Other times (like right now) I feel disconnected and although I *know* that a connection does exist, I do feel the need to build up, or reconnect.