You can 'ace' those web tests if you answer the questions untruthfully. All of those types of tests (and, yes, I know I have one of my own site) are just a starting point. A big problem in our society is that we self-diagnose, and than our Doctors prescribe the medications we ask for as long as they think it won't hurt us. This is a big problem.

Anyway, you have a bigger problem, I think. The two of you are not getting solid advice from a professional. You really need to see someone that is a specialist in Attention Deficit Disorder, and who understands the medicinal as well as emotional issues. Also, I see that you are enabling his behavior (I know about this.. just ask my wife). I think you could benefit from some couples counseling to deal with those issues.

I'm glad to hear you are not a shrinking violet... Because I really think you can get through all of this, but it will be difficult. I strongly suggest that you need to focus on the two of you as a couple (with counseling if required), need to get a real diagnosis and realistic treatment.

There are several good websites that deal with intimate relationships and ADD. You can find some of these by looking at another post I made about ADD websites. Also, there are several good books available on marriage and ADD... Visit Amazon.com.

But, before you get too carried away, please do get your husband to a experienced professional that can verify that he even has ADD.

Wishing you all the best!