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What does becoming too dependent even mean?

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Well in my mind being "too dependent" on another person would mean:
* That I would become reliant on that person to the point that I could not do things for myself.
*That I would seek to connect and need attention from the person beyond what they wish or are willing to give.( A one-sided relationship)
* That I would need there approval or permission or acknowledgment before making personal decisions.
* That I would want to be constantly around that person and would feel very lost and lonely when they weren't immediately available.
* That I would become really sad , upset, lost, or unable to function if the person went away.
* That I would clutch to the relationship long after it should have naturally ended.
* That my actions leave the other person feeling restricted, resentful, claustrophobic, overburdened, and dreading my attempts to connect.

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So you think T's expect that?

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I don't know why I chose the were expects here. I know I had trouble typing that sentence. I think anticipates might be a better word choice...

I think T's likely anticipate that patients will develop an attachment and be dependent on them for support.

Your right, I have no idea what my T actually expects or doesn't expect from me or any other patient. I think she has work pretty hard to convince me that she is trustworthy and accepting of me when I am in her office. Since I really don't have a good handle on what "normal" or healthy attachment is, i don't know if she expects me to be attached to her or not. She did tell me one session that I should have called her when I was struggling and I wanted to talk to her. I don't know if this counts as expecting dependence or just her willingness to allow me to be dependent.

Do you think T's get disappointed with their patients? I kind of feel like I sometimes disappoint my T. Like when I called her a complete stranger after like 8 months of therapy. I can be a real block head sometimes. She's had to want to biff me on several occasions.