I am a member of N/A. I have 18 monrhs clean after 30 years of using. After rehab it's 90 meetings in 90 days. She has got to want it more than you do. Just leave her alone and let her make her choices. I know it's hard, but that's what you have to do. You & your mom are co dependents. I am one too. I have an 18 yr son that I will not let live with me. He has no job. He lives with whoever he can. He wants to come home. I have a protection order that if he steps on my property I can have him arrested. He broke into my garage and stole a weed trimmer and sold it for money. I pressed charges. He is now in an intervention program with the courts. If he makes 1 slip he goes to prison. If he works the program, the felonies are off his record. I have had the support of a counselor to do this. Every week I just want to bring him home. I am so scared. I can't continue to rescue him or there is no chance of him changing. I can't tell you how hard this has been and how much I've cried over this.

They aren't responsible for their illness, but they are responsible for their recovery.

I wish this forum had a co dependency category. I'm sure many people could use it.

I wish your sister well.