<font color="green">[b]Asking for help feels like asking if I could please take a body part home with me.

I think that most of us here have had disfunctional childhoods in some form or fashion. One result of that is we tend to look for someone to provide what mother didn't. Think about a mother with a new baby, she knows when it is hungry and she knows when the pain is gas or a dirty diaper. She knows baby needs simulation and soothing and she provides it without the little one verbalizing what it wants. That attunement that level of attachment is what we often seek from our therapists but the time for that is past. We need to learn what we need and what we want and we need to learn appropriate ways to get it. I believe this is a large part of why we have to ask our therapists and why they won't do things without our asking.