I just heard something like this with Dr. Laura on the radio a couple of weeks ago. The wife was wanting to tell her kids that their father had an affair. Dr. Laura got pretty upset with this woman and told her that it was not something to tell the kids. I agree 100%. Maybe there were things in your parents relationship to make your Mom want out. You said your Mom was your buddy, so why should that change? Sounds like your Dad has lots of problems, more than anyone else there in your family. I hope you can come to terms with this and realize that you kids should have nothing to do with the problems between them. I'm sure you have been through so much, and I hope you feel better.