Dear Sting,

I always knew my parents sucked at parenting too and thought I had a pretty good handle on the fallout. I have come to realize that was a way for me to compartmentalize my pain, because it was unmanageable.

After almost two years of therapy I am coming to terms with just how they failed me and how those failures inhibited my development as a person. I am just now beginning to look at myself as a person who has a lot of work ahead of her to become whole. There are so many different aspects to each of us. Psychotherapy can help us to get to know all the many lovable and not-so-nice parts of ourselves. Once we begin to know ourselves better, we can begin to problem solve. The problems that seemed huge two years ago don't feel so big anymore.

Also, for me, it has helped me to begin to accept myself and to love myself, a concept that is foreign to me. It has been the hardest work I have ever done but I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

I hope this helped. Good luck.