Pink...sometimes a cigar is just a cigar! Maybe you are spending too much time on this erotic transference issue and not enought time on other issues. From reading your posts it seems to me that you have become "stuck" on this issue and maybe you need to explore why you are spending so much time on this. Also, why are you mad at T? You do this often after he has really shared some intense time with you. You then get mad at him. Just some thoughts here.