Pegasus, not knowing your other situation with your T, I've experienced two parts of what you're dealing with that I'll share to hopefully offer help.

I had a T who was pushing me to terminate, telling me I was ready to end it, not taking seriously my claims otherwise, and stringing our appointments to longer and longer periods. I'm not sure how the end actually came; I must have consented--though against what was in my heart. We left it at that if something came up, I could get back in touch to see her for a session or two about that issue. After 6-8 months stuff did come up, and we resumed in full. I think she wanted me to be out on my own having been in T for 9 years non-stop.

She did terminate with me years later under a ” walk into session and told it's the last scenario.” Messiness going on there; not a normal situation. No real opportunity to process things and prepare, it’s been horrible. The feeling of abandonment has kept me from finding another T after 4 years.

It sounds like he doesn't want to work with you, maybe because he thinks you’re ready, maybe other reasons--even if he isn't aware of them.

What about proposing--if it's a last resort--that you take a break of unknown duration with chance of returning if needed? And getting a chance to process your relationship to that point?

Whatever is going on might have nothing to do with you, and the truth is, if a T's heart and mind aren’t fully devoted to working with and for you, it's wrong for them to continue.