well, i can't train T to be a better person... he's damn close to ideal as it is, annoyingly so sometimes He does get grumpy if my "issue" is stated so that it sounds like it's *his* issue.. which is an issue.

come to think of it though, i think i am training him.. i just don't know for what.. i bring him a chocolate every session, except the session in which i bring him cookies or something else i made. Maybe that big smile he gives me when he sees me is a conditioned response to cookies? Nah, better not to think about it.

Miss.. how about one that says "this coupon good for one session in which you can put on headphones while the client blathers on about something you're sick of hearing?" i don't know though, as bad as he might want that his sweet tooth is so bad i think he'd hold out for the chocolate frosted vanilla cupcakes! hahahaha.

pach.. the T's that don't fall into the trap of tuning people out... those are the ones who learn from their clients and really do become better, more compassionate people. My theory, and i have one because the whole issue fascinated me, is that the techniques or concepts used to help protect them from becoming enmeshed, etc, well, they are delicate and if not properly used then the T can become less compassionate without even noticing. It is easy to construct a fake "duck blind" and distance oneself more and more. It's tough to work in a field in which being too vulnerable would destroy you... tough to find that line.