Aside from the fact that T messed up your silences (lol), you should be so proud of yourself. You have come a very long away. Therapeutic silences can be one of the most uncomfortable, painful things to deal with in therapy. For those of us who have trouble with ababdonment (and I think most of us here do), a therapeutic silence is often perceived as a form of abandonment-- the therapist is leaving us "alone" with our thoughts and feelings. It can be a very separate and detached feeling. However, when we grow in therapy, we are able to experience the silence as part of the connection. The fact that you are able to sit with the silence, and even with for the silence, is amazing. Sometimes T's can be really uncomfortable with the silences, too, depending on the given situation. I know that sometimes my T will sit with me through long, long period of silence, and other times he won't shut the %#@&#! up!! Your anger in this situation is certainly not unjustified, or out of proportion. If you cannot validate your own anger at this time, that's is okay-- I'll do it for you. I'm validating your anger because I think it is a huge, healthy step towards both gaining your independence AND maintaining the connection during therapy. My T is very big on the concepts of Winnicott,and Winnicott would call this "being alone in the presence of another." T and I have been working on this concept for awhile.