Oh, some really good questions there!

What would it mean if he doesn't know what to do next?

This is an interesting question because a couple of weeks ago he said that I was going through a transition and it was time to look at what to do next in therapy. He was asking me! And I have to say, that I would prefer him to take the lead and say what we should work on but he said it's a partnership, not like a medical Doctor/patient relationship but a team thing. That kind of flumuxed me, and I leapt down T's throat, "Don't you dare get rid of me!" So it was me that originally brought up the topic of termination. T knows that I have a fear of therapy ending so of course we have been discussing it.

I guess I still look for T to know all the answers, and still try to remain in patient mode as much as possible. It's much easier if someone else makes all the decisions.

Your other questions, I need to chew over.