Chaotic's spycam made me smile because once I told T I wished I could "hot sync" my brain to his so he would be able to see and hear what's going on inside my head.

Anyway, Pachy I think SKy is on the right track here. The only thing that has helped me is to try to be as honest as I can with T so he will know how I feel. He is intrinsically a good person, just boneheaded at times. So, sometimes I feel so completely frustrated because I think he doesn't get it and I feel bad. When that happens I try again..sometimes from a different angle and often at a different time. Hey...he's not the only one who can change a subject in session now is he? The more we can help them to experience our feelings, the more empathic they can be. In fact, you did just this on this thread when you came back and told us you needed less humor and more problem solving!!

Good luck.