Lostandlonely, and all of you who have replied...
I too have similar dreams, often very disturbing, and upon waking, feeling depressed and confused.
I've had these dreams for many years now, and I"ve come to view them as the subconsious' way of working out what has happened..
We (I), still struggle to put things together about abandonment. At some point, though, I (we) have to move forward, despite the dreams. I accept these dreams, and get on with life.
And my choice is to remain alone. I'm 57 and that has a lot to do with it. If I were younger, maybe I would not feel this way.
Patty