Hi Minime,

I don't post often but after reading your post I had to say I can relate to it. My mother(if you call her that) was my abuser. Is your mom still alive?

Mine is, but I stopped contact with her years ago. I am still scared of her showing up at my door. She has threatened to abduct my kids and to kill me. Are you therapy? I have a wonderful therapist who is using EMDR which is helping.

But I think having the one who is suppose to love you, be your soft place, effects someone forever. My T is trying to get me to the point of being proud of who I am in spike of everything happening to me. It did have an effect on me, but according to him not all of the effects were negative.

It is hard, email me if you want to talk. It is so hard for a lot of people to comprehend a mother can be an abuser, when it fact according to statistics, there are more mom's than dad's who abuse children. It is really sad.