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MissCharlotte said:
Inflexibiity in the relationship would lead to more disasters imo.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">This reminds me of how my T sometimes compares providing therapy to playing jazz. Both have certain melodies and rhythms and both require the ability to improvise. To swing with what happens when the two of us together create our music. Every client's song is different. T needs to improvise in creating riffs to match/complement the client's. So yes, flexibility in a T can be a valuable trait.

I think I really took his jazz analogy to heart, because a couple of times when I was totally giving him trust, that he could handle an upcoming difficult situation, I have said to him, "just improvise, I know you can do it." He sometimes looks a bit like, no I can't, give me something more to work with, sunny! But I have a tremendous amount of confidence in him and usually he does just great, and in fact, sometimes what he does amazes me. There have been a couple of times he screwed up in challenging situations (and he heard about it from me later!), but he's human, and overall he is a master jazzman.