to vetswife and katiekaboom-----alot has happened since i was on here last. i try talking to him about anything and he gets so defensive and just makes me feel real sad and i end up just clamming up all together.hes told me in the past that he wont stop wearing womans underwear,he wont get rid of the womans clothes he has packed up in a box,when we do have sex its only once a week anymore and it takes him forever to get motivated at the beginning its almost as if he only has sex with me to keep me from *****ing about it,as far as i know he hasnt looked up any womans clothes since the last time i was on here but he could also be hiding it considering he knows that i know he looks those things up late at night after i go to sleep.what next?? what do i do??i even tryed telling him we need a vacation for just us--im still waiting on that one. i sit at the house all day-cooking,cleaning,taking care of his bipolar 10yr old son that doesnt mind me at all.we see him in the mornings for a hour or so after he gets up and before he goes to work then he gets home around 6 or 7 at night and is on the computer for the rest of the night and i usually go to sleep alone(computer in are bedroom).so what do i do?