Though you mention "intimate" relationship, that could be any number of combinations/situations. Are you talking between spouses?

In general,something like any demands for the performance of a task (even simply folding clothes) and then refusing to accept any work completed. Being "used" for their own gratification but turning a deaf ear and/or giving verbal put downs rather than reciprocating the action (for example back rubs.)

Is this in the area of what you are seeking info about?