Appearances, can get in the way of an initial contact. However, once two people develop an emotional bond, or a cognitive kinship, they can very well put that barrier behind them.

Also, you are more than your physical manifestation. Have you ever met a woman, who initially, didn't look all that great. However, as you got to know her, she looked better and better? Conversely, have you met a woman, who looked great, when you first met her? Then, over a relatively short period, of time, as you got to know her, the luster was lost.