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I think I am really struggling with learning the finer boundaries and rules attachment and dependence. The fact that I don't know these things leaves me with negative feeling about myself.

I'm not sure if my desire for comforting or at least acknowledgment from my T is appropriate or not. I'm not sure yet if I am willing to risk finding out.

I learned that I can endure humiliation and survive. That other get confused like this too.

I've realized that I still don't communicate what I want very well. This time I thought I was being clear, but wasn't.:

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Hi again Chaotic, good analysis! I remember when I had to learn what was normal and what wasn't normal. If you didn't have the luxury of coming from a functional family and, therefore, didn't learn these things, what can you do except learn it now.

What you learned about "humiliation" is awesome. I remember when I learned this too. Hopefully you will progress further and realize that you don't need to feel humiliation. We are all human, have weaknesses and need to learn things. It is okay.

I don't think that perfect communication ever comes. It might take a bit of back and forth before anyone can understand exactly what you are saying/what you mean. We are all unique and communicating that isn't easy.