It is sad to see insults on both views here.
I believe your T did a disservice by not going through with your results of you breaking a verbal contract you had with him. Learning you don' t have to take your deals with him seriously, isn't going to help you in the long run. Not keeping your deal and allowing yourself to manipulate the situation of the deal you made, will not let you heal, it will just allow you to know you can manipulate him. He should of held up his end of the bargain.

As far as you being a T, it doesn't make you an expect on your own therapy, you are not being objective when it come to seeing your behavior or his in your treatment. It is easy to see how things are when you treat others, but when it comes to yourself, it is much more complicated. Being a T doesn't make you exempt from getting into a T relationship that isn't healthy. I see many red flags, but have remained quiet about it because I see the back lash of what happens when anyone questions the actions of your T. I have read enough here, that would put your T in jeopardy of his license if he were turned in.