I know a lot of people who were in love with their therapist who thought their therapy was healthy, who got burned in the end. They also fought others who tried to warn them. I really think people are thinking the best for you when they tell you these things.
He really should seek supervision.
Holding a clients hand when you they have erotic tranference towards you, giving you a special email address so you can contact them anytime, and many more things mentioned here, is operating on the slippery slope. It is in all the current T training books, classes, of what is on the line leading to the slippery slope. Maybe nothing will happen, but it could. I understand why it upsets you to hear these things, don't you see any validity to the warnings especially to those who have been there? It is important to know that the going over the line happens not all at once usually, it happens with gradually with loosening of boundaries. With a client in love with their T, they tend to not want to believe or actually hope the T does react to their affections, they also tend to be somewhat blind to the faults of their T's during this. I am one who is not triggered by your posts, but I care about you, I don't want to see another victim of therapy. I know you believe you are safe, haven't any of your training warned T's of doing what your T does as being not recommended? I wish you could see that others care about you here, and only want the best for you. Have you even thought that maybe you could be wrong about how healthy this relationship is to you and your marriage? Are you able to tell your husband of what you feel for your T? If not, why not?

Just curious if you had a client who was in love with you, would you hold their hand and look into their eyes, give them a special email to contact you? I know I wouldn't lead them on in this way.

I also want to add that just because we warn you of the red flags we see in your therapy , or even had a unhealthy relationship with a T, does not mean we don't know what a loving, healthy, close relationship with a T is.