The red flags are within a year or more of post s I have personally read, a lot of them are on the line of going down the slippery slope. It is the case the line hasn't been completely crossed, but it could, if things keep progressing with loosening of boundaries. Erotic tranference is something that a T needs to be extra careful of how they related to that client. Some of the things I have read would make me think they are encouraging it in the client. Especially a client who has marriage problems. I am training to be a T also, and this relationship worries me. Of course we don't know all of the story of what happens. But the obsession this client has for their T, and that T's responses are suspect. It is up to the T to keep those boundaries, nothing a client does is at fault, but you have to be extra careful in erotic transference issues.
I would like to see Pinksoil not get so offended by the warnings. It is okay not to agree with others, but to attack the characters of those who are doing the warnings as being unable to know what a healthy relationship is, is not being fair. This issue has come up many times, and I wish she would at least know the intentions of others are to help her because they are worried about her, not to make her mad.
If it was me, and many have questioned things over a long period of time, I would at least maybe see why it is, not just dismissing those people as not knowing anything.