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Holding a clients hand when you they have erotic tranference towards you,

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I have to pipe in to disagree. There are many different ways to do therapy, and physical touch is not considered boundary crossing in many of them. Have you read Yalom? I believe he says "touch your client at every session".

For me, early in therapy, physical touch actually diffused the erotic transference, rather than amplifying it. When we touched, he became more "real" - another human being - not this mysterious, untouchable person on the other side of the room. He has held my hands to help me get grounded, to help me feel our connection, to soothe me when I was upset. He has touched my scars/bandaids as a way of telling me "I accept you, I accept this, I'm not afraid". Never has there been any sort of sexual undertone to it.

I WAS someone who was SA by a counselor in the past, so this is something I pay close attention to.

Perhaps it would be best not to make sweeping generalizations about any one's therapy, or anyone's therapist's style??