I left my first husband because of physical abuse. I was raised very religious (strict baptist) and it was a very hard decision to make. I made it for my son; I didn't want him to grow up thinking that's how you are supposed to treat women. Plus the cops started giving me an attitude for not leaving, I wouldn't press charges against my ex but they did and strongly advised me to leave. So I did. Long story short he is a wonderful father now, he got help for his problems.

But now I find myself in yet another mess. No physical abuse, he throws himself around and threatens to hurt himself and others but hasn't done anything yet (that I know of). He's very sick mentally IMO. He has Combat PTSD from desert storm, he was in a bad motorcycle accident, bad head injury, paralyzed right arm, he abuses his pain medication and he thinks he's above the law (because of his military back ground). I want soooo much just to be in another place, I just want to close my eyes and be in a supportive, loving relationship. He wants absolutely nothing to do with me. I fear I will never have a love life again and feel that I'm too young not to. I don't want to go through another divorce. I love my family life, my kids, birthdays, holidays having everyone together. I don't want that to change and divorces changes that dramatically. I guess I'm waiting for that straw to break the camels back. Last time it was the black eyes and bloody noses now I feel that I don't have a good enough excuse.

I came to the realization that I was not meant to be happy in my relationship. And to just be happy and count my blessings, I have three wonderful kids, they are happy and healthy, I have a roof over my head and food on the table. That's not so bad.

My Uncle is a Baptist pastor. He sais I have have grounds for divorce and would supports me if I were to leave (spiritualy speaking). So I think I have religious and legal reasons to leave. I'm just not ready to throw in the towel.

I swear I have the worst luck when it comes to relationships.

I think it depends on your limitations. Pros and cons of leaving or staying. Everyone has their breaking point.

Good luck and I hope you find your answers soon.