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Maybe not all psychological theories say that touching a client that personally, (holding hands) especially when they have admitted a romantic erotic tranference, say it is going down the slippery slope, but most do say it is not recommended. Many theories don't believe in any kind out physical touch, which I don't agree with, but when there is erotic transference or counter-tranference, it should be avoided.

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I just wanted to share my interpretation. When I first read this post, I was so impressed with pinksoil's T -- because he didn't change his behavior just because pinksoil expressed her feelings.

Trust is so vital to have real healing in a therapeutic relationship. If I told T something difficult, and then he suddenly said 'oop...you talked about sex, no more touch' -- I would feel punished. I would feel like my trust in T had been shaken.

Good therapy, IMHO, embraces the whole person -- nasty bits and all. And to have the T make sudden changes in a carefully created safe environment, would do more harm than good.

I appreciate the theories, but they are just that -- theoretical.

I hope that makes sense...